Reasons why children aren't close to their parents and how to solve them
You might be shocked seeing something like this, but the fact is that not all children are very close to their parents the way others. And it is a very bad thing because the closest person to you should be your parents.
Now, You may be thinking what can make children not be be close to their parents, but in this article I will give you very good reasons why some children aren't close to their parents.
Most times as the situation may occur, Most boys are more closer to their mother, and girls closer to their father. If this is happening in your family, have you ever taught why it like that?
But the fact is that the closeness and love given to parents by children should be equal. Sometimes it you really need some thing you rather go for who you are closer with most in the family and try to get what you want but if you are closer with both father and mother, you will eventually feel free to ask your needs from any of them.
Without wasting much time let quickly highlight Good reasonable reasons why some children are not close to either the father or mother.
Come to think of it because it looks quiet unbelievable but it happens in the real world.
Reason why some children aren't close to their parents.
1.) Nature of the parents work.
2.) Bad attitudes of parents to children.
3.) Bad attitudes of children to parents.
1.) Nature of the parents work.
You may be asking how does the nature of a parent work affect the closeness of children to their parents? But I can give you good explanations about this very important reason.
Assuming Both parents are bankers, working every day from 6am - 6 am imagine how will their children be use to them. Their children may go to school early in the morning and then come back to the house not to see ant of the parents. And maybe the parents can't give the children good attention, care, advise because of the nature of the work. Assuming the parents brings in a nani(helper), the children may be closer to the helper than even the parents because of the care, support attention the helper gives to this children and that's what children likes at a very tender age.
How to solve this problem.
As a parent what you are suppose to do is not to quit your job, you are to think and strategize way out of this problem.
One way is by frequent Communication, Frequent communication can be done through calls and video calls, but I actually recommend video calls because it deals with but audio and visual reality.
While you are less busy at work you can simply give out a phone call/video call direct to you children, maybe you can ask them what they will want you to buy for them when coming back from work , so when he/she tells you what he/she needs their minds will eventually be on you waiting for you to come back to collect what they ask of. In that case when you come back, They will quickly rush you, greet you, collects you bag and ask if you buy what they ask for.
If you can be doing this every day or once in three days, your children will be very closer to you be it a girl or a boy. By so doing you have attracted them to yourself using gift.
They are so many other method but this is highly recommended because it actually works and 100% tested and trusted.
2.) Bad attitudes of parents towards children.
Some one may be asking how can parents exhibit bad attitudes to children that may make children far from their parents.
But the fact is that this things happens in reality.
Some parents can be so harsh and always curious to beat up their children for anything little that's doesn't amount to cane. Parents who always shout on their children are indirectly driving the children from them maybe it may be unknown to them.
When a child do something wrong for the first time, what a parent is suppose to do is to call the child seat he/she down talk to the child very deeply, if it a soft hearted child he/she will start to cry and regret his/her action.
When the child repeated that same thing you corrected he/she about you can use a little cane then after that called the child come closer to you telling him not to repeat it again. If that child is a real human being that child is expected to change from the attitude immediately.
Using rod always on a child usually makes a child very adamant, stubborn and wicked.
**Proof the point** when I can't draw a child to my self and always beating and shouting on the child, the child feels frustrated and also afraid of you, this will eventually make the child not to be closer to you and it a very bad habit because he/she might be afraid to tell you things that deserve advice and also feel afraid to ask the parent for what he/she wants.
How to solve this;
As a child if you have this type of parents you are not expected to be exchanging words with them or insulting them.
First thing you are to do is to think about what you will tell them and try to tell them or advice them at the middle of the night or early in the morning.
You can say something like ''Daddy, you have been a loving father to me and am very happy to be your son/daughter, I am sorry for all the things am doing to you, it out of ignorance and arrogance, but please I want Us to leave in peace and only me and you can make this be. Pls an not wishing to do any wrong thing but if I mistakingly do any don't despise me immediately calm down and talk to be because I know how painful it is.. I understand that shouting on me makes me adamant and I dont want to be adamant. That why I came to tell you all these things at this time. Am very sorry for disturbing you I hope of getting the best from you''
apologize, give your complaint, correction and cause, then the effect , the solution and conclude.
3.) Bad attitudes of children to parents
This is very common among children even after having good and responsible parents.
Children can developed bad attitudes especially from a peer group, school mates, friends and also from irresponsible parents. A child growing up can't inherited bad attitudes from the parents, the child's most have developed it from somewhere, and its lest for parents to track where the bad attitudes are coming from before the conditions get worst.
I have know of some children that also learn bad attitudes from parents.
If a parent also insults his/her child all the time, that child will develop the habit of insulting and if care is not taken that child can start to use those insult leant from the parents to insult the parent.
So children become harden when they begin to grow up and feel there are on top of the world.
They don't want to here any other advice and claim to be matured enough to do mature things not knowing that no body is this mater of knowledge. That's the fact!!
In this case the children try to become stubborn and disobedient, they will even want to have freedom to do what ever they want to do.
They don't response to errands, no respect, etc.
But there is a solution.
How to solve this.
i.) Train the child in a Godly way and If you still begin to see symptoms of strange character, minimize the allowance of the out word movement of the child.
Give him Godly assignment and make him busy.
ii.) Advice him/her early in the morning or
Late in the night because this method actually works a lot.
iii.) Draw the child closer to yourslef by buying him gift and always solving his/her needs, it increase love from children to parents.
iv.) Don't let him follow bad friend and always ask him/her to tell you about his/her friends, because 40% of problems comes from here.
v.) Don't let your son/daughter be always angry with you...
Draw him/her to yourself every after correcting and advising him/her.
vi.) Pray for your child
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